on the Trinity syndrome.

frozen, one year later.

Shonda Rhimes on leadership in Hollywood.

is the Exodus movie racist? Probably.


How to lose a guy in 10 days IRL.

Economics of dating, OKCupid


A user's guide to trolling on the internet

Bloomberg passes over top woman editor to hire...a white guy


women in the UFC.

being 40 and not wanting children


Why are almost all active shooters men?

We always blame the victim.

We live in a country full of racism, but no racists; rape, but no rapists. And the common denominator is power. To believe a rape survivor's word over that of her male classmate, colleague, teacher, or superior officer is to upset the natural order of things, privileging the voice with less cultural authority over the one we expect to have all the answers.


Getting to no.

By the legal definition, what happened the night of the red cup was sexual assault: I said no. He pressured me, until, under the influence, I stopped resisting. I can imagine other young women in similar situations justifiably going to their universities or pressing charges. But in the disgusted days that followed my own encounter, though I was angry, I did not consider myself the victim of an attack. If I had been afraid of anything, it was only of some deeply awkward moment. I did not have it in me to make a scene.