Reading the column I have to side with Dear Abby and the Inlaws. The children ages 12 and 14 were told to stop roughhousing with their cousins. They did not.stop thus door frame was damaged. This was at the grandparents house.
The grandmother wants to gramdchildren to pay. I assume cousins are chipping in too. I do not have a problem with that. Fixing or replacing a door frame would cost a few hundred dollars.
If they cannot pay they should do chores instead.
Dear Abby and I are same page. Or are we wrong.